Recently we finished a book, 30 Ways To A Confident Marriage, and it is printing, as I write this……whew whooo, excitement!!! We can’t believe it!! The book like I said before, is not perfect and from two imperfect people. We gathered information that was useful to our own marriage, hoping it might be used by others. In the book, we identified Six Areas where you and your spouse can work on having a confident marriage. In chapter two, we talk about Confident Marriage, Confident Kids. I wanted to include #10 today, which is….Make A Family Creed. Leading up to making a family creed, we set the stage for respecting one another in front of your kids, your team, discipline, and family goals and dreams. Whether you have kids or not, you and your spouse can still utilize these areas in your marriage, as you develop your own family.
CHAPTER TWO: Confident Marriage, Confident Kids
6. RESPECT EACH OTHER IN FRONT OF THE KIDS
7. YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE ARE A TEAM
8. AGREE ON DISCIPLINE
9. HAVE FAMILY GOALS & DREAMS
10. MAKE A FAMILY CREED
10. Make a Family Creed:
This can be a family exercise or one that you and your spouse do together before having children. List values and principles that you want to instill in your children. Look at God’s Word for inspiration; the books of Proverbs and the Psalms have great insight and prayers that can help. Come up with a clear, concise Family Creed that you can type up and print off on some good parchment looking paper. Have the family sign it and frame it for display in your home. You’ll be surprised at the conversations that it will start with visitors to your home.
- Find out more. We got the Family Creed idea from, Growing
Kids God’s Way, if you’d like to look into it further.
- Make it special. We made a night of it. Write out what
your family stands for. This will reinstate your team.
Ours said, We believe in God the Father and His Son,
Jesus Christ. It also said things like, we will honor the
name of the Lord, we will try our best to keep our word,
and we will be Faithful to God, our spouse and our
family. We will discuss a problem first before it goes
outside our house. We will seek God! We will love
according to 1Cor. 13. Yours can say what your family
decides on and what is most important to you.
- Display your family creed. Have it visible for your
family and others to see. It will be a reminder on those
days when you feel like it and the days you don’t. It will
remind you of the contract you have made with your
family. It will impress your children and they will write it
on the tablets of their heart. (Prov. 3:3)
I remember the day that we made our family creed. We gathered around the kitchen table with our little family and wrote out those very important words. We watched each other signed the parchment paper, agreeing to follow our “contract”. Our boys felt like they had just gotten drafted for the NFL, it made them feel part of our team, the Elliott’s. After signing our agreement we hung it on the wall. We couldn’t believe the first time someone came to our house, our little guys took the hands of our guest and lead them….. not to show them a new toy, their room, or a game they were playing, but instead lead them straight to the wall with the family creed. Honestly, we were surprised that it meant so much to them, but we were glad it made an impression. It was the impression we were hoping for. Maybe you are hoping to make more of an impression as a family, if so, then a family creed might be a good place to start.
We all can do something to make our family stand out, to make our family stand up, or to stand for something. What do you want yours to stand for? Thank you for reading……………thecowboypastorswife
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